The Marriage Triangle

One of the most important aspects of marriage I think is about how the two becoming one. This is called a mystery, but I don't really think it is all that mysterious actually.

When a man and woman get married, they leave behind the family they were born into, and become a new family unit. Of course, this doesn't mean that they no longer have anything to do with their families, it just means that now the two individuals have become one.

Years ago, a very wise man told Cheryl and I to make sure that we each chased after God, and in doing so we would grow closer. It's like the diagram above, as the husband and wife each reach out towards God, the closer they get to Him, the closer they get to each other. God needs to be the central guiding figure in a marriage, after all He created it. So it would only stand to reason that if we are going to have a successful marriage, then we should look to Him to help us fulfill that.

So what does growing closer to God and in turn growing closer to each other look like? How do you walk that out? For me, it is making sure that you are following and becoming a disciple of the Lord Jesus daily. It's praying for your spouse, when they are around and even when they're not. It's putting them and their needs before yourself, you know, that agape-type love, the selfless love that looks out for the needs of others instead of its own needs. It's knowing when to talk, when to listen, when to hug and when to steer clear. It's about knowing your spouse and what makes them tick, not ticked off. (Thanks Joe McGee for that reminder.)

Marriage is not rocket science, it is really pretty simple if you'll let it be. The only time that it has ever become difficult for me, is when I'm not walking in the love of Christ towards my bride like I should be. And I know you've probably never done that, but in case you know anyone who has, be sure and help them alright?

The world that we are living in today is seeing marriages fail right and left. The enemy (The devil.) knows that if he can destroy the family he can hurt God. Don't let this happen to yours marriage. Fight for it, growing closer to God and in the process growing closer to each other too.

Love well, and you'll live well. Shalom!